Do you want to waste time fighting over our allies’ words? Or do you want to do the real work of fighting the actual enemy of equality?
You’re about to be erased, but rather than focus on the real enemy, you’re wasting time frightening off the people who might be the foot soldiers at your side. Let me ask a question? What is important to you?
Your marriage? Your right to have intimacy with the person you love without the very real threat of being incarcerated? What about getting the surgeries you need to be your true self? What about the right to control your own body?
What about the right to not allowing quacks to practice legalized torture, otherwise known as aversion therapy, on LBGTQ youth?
With that, let me ask one more question. Which is more important: angrily debating the uses of language and chastising people whose language doesn’t meet certain standards, or spending that time organizing to actually fight back against the anti-LGBTQ backlash that has already started?
Those of us who’ve been on the front lines fighting for equality have seen it before; the backlash in 2022 will make the battles we’ve had thus far look like a walk in the park. And if we don’t have the right priorities, that backlash will get the better of us.
We’ve battled to take back our very streets. We battled against being arrested for congregating in public. We battled to be allowed to get served in restaurants and bars (yes it was illegal to serve a known homosexual). And we battled against being arrested for having sex with someone of the same sex.
Yes, people were arrested for having sex in their home, and it happened more recently than you think. Sodomy laws weren’t erased in some states until 2003. Less than 20 years ago.
Do you want to guess which state will be the first to make intimacy with your partner illegal? North or South Carolina? Oklahoma? Florida? The answer will probably be, sadly, Texas.
In the past Texas legislators have already discussed the process to make you and your marriage illegal. Now, Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton, in discussing Lawrence v. Texas, where the Supreme court ruled that criminal punishments for those who commit sodomy was unconstitutional, has stated that he’d be “comfortable” enforcing a ban on sodomy or gay marriage.
Paxton said: “Yeah, I mean, there’s all kinds of issues here, but certainly the Supreme Court has stepped into issues that I don’t think there’s any constitutional provision dealing with. They were legislative issues, and this is one of those issues, and there may be more. So it would depend on the issue and depend on what state law had said at the time.”
That’s how it starts. We’ve already seen numerous pieces of anti-LGBTQ legislation aimed at healthcare, youth services, playing sports.
There seems to be no end in sight for states that have Republican majorities in the legislature. Those legislatures see the infighting in the community as an opportunity to press forward with their agendas. They see the infighting as a way to draw more people over to their side.
So, I’ll ask again: do you want to waste time fighting over our allies’ words, or do you want to do the real work in facing the actual enemy of equality?
Mark Segal is the founder and publisher of the Philadelphia Gay News, a publishing partner of the Pennsylvania Capital-Star, where this piece first appeared.