Moving gayly forward

Out In Jersey magazine Editor Sam Martino
Out In Jersey magazine Editor Sam Martino

Editor’s Letter

Last month, we had our Capitol attacked by home grown terrorists, and we are in the midst of a pandemic with over four thousand people a day dying. But now that the adults are in the room, I can honestly say that I feel more at peace then I have felt in at least four years. I have hope with two vaccines in use, and more on the horizon, that we are going to get through this pandemic.

Moving into 2021, there is much we have to look forward to. Vacations, going to the gay bar, and dancing, dancing at the gay bar with music blaring and maybe a hit of poppers, or two. Oh wait, that was back in the day!

But really moving forward to our future, we will be able to hang out with our friends. Not just those who are in our bubble. We can look forward to hanging with old friends and making new ones, and who knows, maybe we can have sex with strangers again. The possibilities will be endless. Operas, galleries, concerts and galas will no longer be a faint memory, but real live, events.

I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait to go to the market and pick out my own fruit and vegetables. Not that I have not appreciated the people who have shopped for me during this time, but I miss feeling up my own fruit. You know?

Then there are the doctors’ visits. Don’t get me wrong, I love the telemed visits. No looking for parking or waiting long hours. But doctors will finally be able to see patients in their offices, and do what they love the most, see their patients.

Birthday parties, but not so fast with the candles on the cake. Blowing all over a cake was never a good plan to begin with. We can probably leave that to the past. Now it will look something like everyone gets their own piece of cake with their own candle, and that is just fine.

Holidays will be spent with friends and families without feeling like you are taking your life in your hands. Family, whether chosen or not, is integral to us being healthy and mentally sound. Being in the company of people who love us is something we all need.

And hugs! There are huggers, and then there are huggers. Big old envelop you hugs that pick you up off your feet hugs, a great to see you hug, a goodbye hug, and see you next week hug. There are so many hugs to go around. I’m not even a big hugger like my wife is, but I miss all those hugs!

Last but not least, work. Bosses have gotten the memo. People who work on their computers do not need to commute to the office to get the job done. They are perfectly fine doing their jobs from the comfort of home, in their pj’s, while not adding to the carbon footprint.

I hope, dear readers, I have given you some thought on things to look forward to. Can’t wait to see you at my favorite opera, gala, gay bar or pride event!

Sam Martino
Maria Sammartino (aka Sam Martino), is a writer and artist for over 15 years. Maria started at Out In Jersey as the news editor in 2009, and shortly thereafter became the Editor-In-Chief. She has been published in the Philadelphia Gay News, The International Journal of MS Care, and others. Maria goes by Sam Martino because she believes that women are never given a fair shot - and doesn’t want her art or her writing to be judged based on her sex, but on the merit of the work.