Loving a Church that doesn’t love us

Rev. Irene Monroe
Rev. Irene Monroe

The United Methodist Church opposes same-sex marriage and the ordination of LGBT clergy

For decades there has been an ongoing struggle in the United Methodist Church to adopt a policy of full inclusion of its LGBT parishioners and clergy, and all the spiritual gifts we bring to the church.

However, UMC’s vote at General Conference last month to uphold- 53% to 47%- its Traditionalist Plan, which is to oppose same-sex marriage and the ordination of LGBT clergy. Now the church has the potential for a schism with its global delegation outweighing the U.S. delegation.

In the hopes of avoiding a schism, the Council of Bishops had recommended the One Church Plan that would grant individual ministers and regional church bodies the decision to ordain LGBTs as clergy and to perform LGBT weddings. It was believed that such a decision on a church-by-church and regional basis would reflect the diversity as well as affirm the different churches and cultures throughout the global body of UMC.

The One Church Plan, however, was one of three proposed plans by the UMC’s Commission on a Way Forward. The others include the Traditionalist Plan and the Connectional Conference Plan, both exclusionary to LGBT parishioners.

The One Church Plan would excise the offensive and controversial language targeted at LGBTs from the Book of Discipline. It would have replaced it with a more compassion, accurate, up-to-date, and contextualized language about human sexuality in support of the mission and all its parishioners. The One Church Plan would uphold religious freedom and thereby safeguard those clerics and conferences unwilling to ordain or marry us because of their theological convictions.

UMC continues to be contradictory in its policies concerning LGBT worshippers

However, the UMC continues to be contradictory in its policies concerning LGBT worshippers. The Church’s contentious views reared its ugly head at the 2016 meeting of global delegates.

For example, the UMC states that we have and are of the same sacred worth as heterosexuals. It says that the  Church is committed to the ministry of all people regardless of gender identities and sexual orientations. However, the Church also views queer sexualities as sinful. The Book of Discipline states that sexuality is “God’s good gift to all persons” and that people are “fully human only when their sexuality is acknowledged and affirmed by themselves, the church and society.”

However, this rule is not applicable to LGBTs.

It is clear that the UMC is not in lockstep with the changing societal tide toward LGBT acceptance. It is also not in lockstep with its own more progressive arm of “reconciling and inclusive” congregations. However, the UMC’s history of struggle on this issue clearly illustrates the defiant will for LGBT inclusion.  And the Churches in Massachusetts have always led the way.

In last Sunday’s Boston Globe nearly three dozen United Methodist churches across the Commonwealth took out a half-page ad. They affirmed their belief “in the sacredness of all.” It is the advocacy Massachusetts churches have shown LGBTs for decades.

In the 1990s, in Boston’s South End, the Union United Methodist Church, in a predominately African American congregation — once the epicenter of the city’s LGBT community — was one of them. And it is the one institution least expected to be lauded among LGBT people of African descent because of the Black Church’s notorious history of homophobia. When its pastor came out at General Confernce in 2016 to move the global church body’s moral compass against its anti-LGBT policies, UUMC was in full support.

Since June 2011 more than 100 Methodist ministers in New England have pledged to marry LGBT couples in defiance of the denomination’s ban on same-sex unions. Approximately one out of nine Methodist clerics signed a statement. They pledged to open their churches to LGBT couples. They stated, “We repent that it has taken us so long to act… We realize that our church’s discriminatory policies tarnish the witness of the church to the world, and we are [complicit].’’

Reverend Frank Schaefer, of Iona, Pennsylvania, was forced to stand trial

In 2013, the Reverend Frank Schaefer, pastor at Zion United Methodist Church of Iona in Pennsylvania, was forced to stand trial for officiating at his son’s 2007 same-sex nuptials. “I love him so much and didn’t want to deny him that joy. I had to follow my heart,” Schaefer told the New York Daily News.

The Eastern Pennsylvania Conference of the Methodist Church, however, wanted to drill home to Schaefer and his allies that he — irrespective of familial love or Christian belief — blatantly and willfully violated the church’s law book. The Book of Discipline, prohibits same-sex marriages. So, knowing where Methodist clerics in New England stand on same-sex marriages, Schaefer officiated his son’s nuptials in Massachusetts.

UMC’s decision to oppose same-sex marriage and the ordination of LGBT clergy is wrong-headed and wrong-hearted. However, LGBT people know that this religious intolerance and spiritual abuse is antithetical to the social gospel of Jesus Christ: that all people under God have the same sacred worth — even if the United Methodist Church doesn’t practice it.