It’s time to do something

Sam Martino
Out In Jersey magazine editor Sam Martino

Instead of being a keyboard vigilante, which never helps anyone, why not try doing something more productive? Bitching and moaning is equivalent to thoughts and prayers.

Some people don’t know where to start or are embarrassed to ask for help.

With elections coming up, be sure you are registered to vote. If you are registered to vote, you can help other people get registered.

Having friends is important to your happiness and they help to check you when you are wrong. You never know what ideas will come up when you start brainstorming with your friends. I know that any time I get with my friends we always come up with good ideas. Acting on those ideas is key to being fulfilled.

Friends will also help to not let you walk out the door looking like crap. Once my friend walked out her door (I wasn’t there) with a pair of panties stuck to the back of her shirt. No one told her until she got to work, and someone said, “Girl, what’s on your back?” She proceeded to pull the panties off and hand them to her without saying a word to anyone.

That’s a good friend. It would have been helpful if someone had said something sooner.

Friends help you not feel isolated, or alone. Especially in times that are hard. During happy times, who better to celebrate your small or large victories with than your friends?

I am sure you can remember a time you couldn’t wait to call your best friend and tell them you met the love of your life.

So, what can we all do to effect change in our communities? Call your older neighbors and ask if they need help with anything. You could offer to drive them to their appointments. Pick up their meds at the pharmacy, cook them a meal and then eat it with them. Many elderly and disabled people suffer from isolation and are lonely.

Many of us have no clue where to start to effect change in the world, and obsessing over comments sections online does nothing.

You could always write for a magazine and hope that your words touch someone in your community. I hope these words touch you. Want to write for us? Reach out to me!

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Sam Martino
Maria Sammartino (aka Sam Martino), is a writer and artist for over 15 years. Maria started at Out In Jersey as the news editor in 2009, and shortly thereafter became the Editor-In-Chief. She has been published in the Philadelphia Gay News, The International Journal of MS Care, and others. Maria goes by Sam Martino because she believes that women are never given a fair shot - and doesn’t want her art or her writing to be judged based on her sex, but on the merit of the work.