With marriage equality a reality in New Jersey, it's time to start holiday shopping for that loved one or friend... or couple! This year, Out In Jersey compiled a list of gifts, ranging from private naked yoga instruction to... attorneys? Of course! Because we can't forget that stocking-stuffer prenuptial agreement. If you believe in gay marriage, you better believe in gay divorce. Happy holidays!
Thinking Out Loud
During the government shutdown in October, my partner, Traci, and I found ourselves in Philadelphia with a handful of useless tickets to the important American history sites there. The irony of not getting into Independence Hall–home of both the Declaration of Independence and the Constitution–due to governmental stupidity was not lost on us. What's left to do as a tourist when all the big tourist spots are closed?
Now that we have won the long fight for marriage equality here in New Jersey and the parties are over, we find there is still some fine- tuning to do. The legislature is considering whether over- riding the governor’s veto and writing equality into law is necessary, since the courts seem to have done the job for them. This idea, of course, lets a lot of Republicans and a few Democrats off the hook. More than that, it opens some possibilities that a law, as presently envisioned, would not.
Around the Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year's holidays, Black gay men who are estranged, ostracized or marginalized from their families often feel isolated, abandoned and alone. "We Are @ the Table– Celebrating Togetherness" is an effort to bring these men together for a sense of belonging, if not to biological families, then to a Brooklyn community of people who share and identify with them.
The AIDS Generation by Dr. Perry N. Halkitis, PhD, MS, MPH, is a powerful, moving and useful book. Not only does it chronicle the terrible years of the plague when a positive diagnosis was almost tantamount to a death sentence it also explores why that word "almost" must be included. A few survived that diagnosis and continue to survive.
Dare we talk about the s-e-x in homosexuality? Haven't we all - gay and straight - agreed to leave behind closed doors what happens behind closed doors? Yes, but unless we acknowledge that same-sex couples and single gays are just as loving, complicated, libidinous, sometimes sexual, sometimes not - in other words, just as human and normal -- as everyone else, a large swath of our population will remain disgusted with the whole business.
There are numerous hagiographies on the Matthew Shepard murder. Twenty years after Shepard's murder, they're being challenged. Are we ready for the tale investigative journalist Stephen Jimenez, himself gay, spins? I had the pleasure of meeting him at his book reading in the Harvard Coop this month. I told Stephen, referring to his book, that perhaps it's easier to kill the messenger (him) than hear his message.
A finalist for the 2013 Terrence McNally New Play Award, "A Most Dangerous Woman" "celebrates the transformative power of art." Written by Cathy Tempelsman, it also won other awards, which brought it to the attention of the Shakespeare Theatre. It is not often that a new play, especially one celebrating the life of an English novelist, has an established director like Richard Maltby, Jr., whose credits include "Ain't Misbehavin," "Fosse," and as co- lyricist "Miss Saigon."
Three organizations will team up for an Affordable Care Act information Town Hall Meeting in Jersey City. The meeting will be held at the Husdon Pride Connections Center in late October to educate the local LGBT community on the Affordable Healthcare registration process.
Last week the Center for American Progress released a report on LGBT youth homelessness, exploring who these homeless youths are, how they become homeless, how their needs are being addressed, and what the federal government can do to eliminate homelessness among LGBT youth.